How Motherhood Has Changed Me For The Better!

Young girls love playing the mom part when they are involved in imaginary play. They tend to their dolls by feeding them, putting them to sleep, cooking for them. I often wondered what it is about motherhood that attracts girls since a very young age.

Maybe God gifted us an innate motherly instinct. We want to be the nurturer, the care giver. Until the time I became a mother, I believed that these are the only facets of being a mom.

But motherhood changed me. I was the care giver, the nurturer but these 8 years of motherhood have made me realise that my daughter has helped me bring many positive changes within me, help me understand myself better and there is certainly much more to motherhood.

When Pooja approached me to be a part of this blog train and write on ‘How Motherhood has Changed Me’ I was very excited to share my journey with amazing 41 blogger moms. I was also keen to know about their motherhood stories. It is a great way to bond with mommies from around the world and understand the transition a woman goes through after motherhood.

Motherhood does bring physical changes and many emotional changes in a woman but for me the most significant ones are the ones which changed me completely as a person.

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I became an extrovert person

I was very shy as a child, also during adulthood for quite some time until I became a mother. It was always difficult for me to approach people and speak with them. But after my daughter started school, and that was a time when we moved to Mumbai from our hometown; I needed to interact with other moms and familiarise myself with the new city and neighbourhood. I couldn’t keep feeling shy and not speak to others if I wanted my daughter to settle easily to the new surroundings. So that was a very significant change that motherhood brought in me. I let go of my inhibitions for the first time and have made many close friends in these 5 years.

 Take rejections in my stride and look at failures as opportunities for improvement

Don’t we always want our children to be fearless and face challenges head on? We need to set an example for them. I realised I need to learn to face rejections and pick myself up whenever I face failure in anything that I do. Be it in the day to day tasks or in my profession as a blogger/writer. I know she is always watching me and learning from me. Before motherhood I would easily lose hope and feel unaccomplished many a times but after motherhood I am completely a different person.

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Most significant change – A Purpose in Life

Motherhood got me to blog about my journey. I have always been writing but I never shared my thoughts with anyone. I had kept a lot within myself. Blogging gave me that outlet. I started sharing my parenting stories and shared my doubts with other parents on various parenting platforms. Here I didn’t have the fear of being judged. I could just write my heart out. Slowly in this past two years I took the plunge to start my own website. My daughter has a huge role to play in this very important change of my life. Blogging and my website About Parent And Kid has given a purpose to my life. I became a mother second time around. Now I have something to look forward to daily when I wake up. Today when I write, she watches me engrossed in something which I love and enjoy doing. She reads my blogs, looks for where I have mentioned her, what am I writing about her. She writes for my blog too; Stories On Honesty By A 8 Year Old , Kids Never Cease To Amaze Me! and it was the happiest moment for me in my life; to have her as a companion in my journey. Motherhood gave me my soul mate-my daughter and my blog. And that is how it has changed my life.

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How has motherhood changed yours? Do share with us.

Hop on this blog train hosted by Pooja Kawatra of Mums & Babies with other 41 amazing moms who have come together to share their journey on ‘How Motherhood Has Changed Me 

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Next on the blog train is Richa who blogs at All That’s Mom. Earlier labels like software engineer, daughter , wife, artist don’t appeal to her! The only tag which she loves having is “MOM”. When she is not attached to her laptop you will find her spending time with her little one. Alongside work and trying to keep her adventurous toddler alive she has a strong passion for travel, photography, cooking healthy meals and keeping her toddler busy.  Allthatsmom was started after her little one was born.

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Hop onto her blog All That’s Mom to read about her adventurous motherhood journey.

 

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53 comments

  1. Such an honest post from the heart. 🙂 Aesha, you are one of those people who just give out positive vibes. We might not have chatted very often or even met yet, but I feel a connection with you. And after reading this post I feel like I know the person behind the mother a little better! Lots and pots of love to you and your family!!!

    • Thanks Shubhreet!! Blogging has given me an opportunity to connect with other moms. It is the best that could have happened to me. I am in a very happy space right now, thankfully that makes me more positive. I want my blog to build connections with parents , that is the reason I started to write. When you say, you feel a connection, it means the world to me. Thanks a lot.

  2. Such a lovely post Aesha! I loved reading and learning more about you. You are definitely a powerful role model for your daughter! And it is so cool that she partners you in your blogging journey.
    Much Love!

  3. World will become such a better place if everyone starts to take rejections & feedback positively. That such an incredible value to possess & pass on to your children. Loved reading this article.

  4. Loved reading your motherhood journey Aesha! How beautiful small 8 yr old girl loves to write and yes even I always remind myself that I have to be an extrovert and need toattend social events so that my son Doesn’t grow up like me🙈 as I have social anxiety issues! And, I agree, we all have that motherly instinct in us since the beginning.

    • Thanks for reading… keep visiting. I also didn’t want her to be like me, I would feel shy also to greet any guests when I was of her age. But now kids are more confident about themselves and thus not too shy

  5. A very wonderful transformation from a shy person to an extrovert, that really speaks volumes of your journey. True god has given that motherly feeling within us as if by default, I have always been that suddenly turning into a mummy figure at home and at college. May be we get it on the go…

  6. May i First say, she is so sooo adorable.
    And Ayesha you just said right. the more m growing as a mother, i am becoming more calm and rational. I also get emotional sometimes but thats for good as well

  7. Aesha I absolutely agree. we all have this innate care giver, nurturer quality which only evolves once we become mothers. but motherhood brings out the best in us in so many ways. loved reading about your experience and the wonderful pics speak a volume!

  8. It is so true that we all become better parts of ourselves when we have kids. Thanks for sharing that. Love that you have gotten her involved in you blog too. I think blogging has definitely open channels for us blogger moms.

  9. Yes Aesha, motherhood has changed me not just mentally but also physically….hahaha Love handles, thinning hair, saggy chest, my forgotten relationship with my parlor lady….just kidding. On a more serious note, totally with you on this post. It revived empathy in me and also a sense of responsibility not just for my family but also the world in general.

  10. This is s true Aesha! motherhood teaches us new definitions of rejection. I believe that if we learn this particular lesson of rejection well, we are good to go.Kids grow up and face ups and downs ,and by that time we are well prepared to deal with that kind of situation! Beautiful post

  11. Your daughter writes too had me go wow!
    Amazing, love the points here, especially that being a mum has given us a purpose and what a huge deal that is. Enjoyed reading your take

  12. Heartwarming post, Aesha. It’s so beautiful to read different takes on how motherhood has changed each one of us better. Stay blessed dear. Happy to join with you on this blog train.

  13. What a lovely post… Accepting failures is seriously the most important thing I learned after patience. Thanks for mentioning about my journey which will be published tomorrow and I am really excited!!!

  14. wonderful post. I also feel the same .. motherhood and being a mother to a little baby has opened so many possibilities and avenues for me personally. I have finally got wings to most of my dreams – such as writing. Motherhood is inspiring indeed.

  15. Wow..how beautifully you wrote the introductory paragraph. Loved it. Followed with few very true thoughts. I guess I will have to say the same things if I want to answer how motherhood has changed me. Talking about the extrovert point then yes…kids give us so many occasions to speak up and getting out of our comfort zones…
    Loved the last line too…”motherhood gave me my soul mate my daughter and my blog.”
    Enjoyed reading your experience.

    • Thanks a lot Alpana. Blogging & motherhood has changed my life & it was very emotional experience for me to write this post. Thanks for reading dear

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