There is not a single definition of parenting. Each parent is different as is the child. We -a group of mom bloggers thus decided to share our parenting mantras. And you will be amazed to read about the varied views and tips that my fellow mom bloggers have provided in their blogs. So welcome aboard our blog train-My Parenting Mantra. We have some awesome bloggers who are going to drive it for over a month. We Promise to bring you some enriching contents that will add to your own parenting experience.
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My parenting style is greatly influenced in the manner in which my parents raised me. However, I learnt that my daughter, who is now 8 years of age, is completely different from me. She has different qualities than me. The parenting process doesn’t have any fixed rules and needs to change depending upon the situations. It is a continuous learning process. So in 8 years of my motherhood journey I have developed my own parenting style and my mantra.
Inculcate honesty: Since the day I got to know about my pregnancy I promised to be honest with my child. Honesty is an essential virtue. And children learn by observing their parents. I always have open and honest communication with my daughter.
Do not pamper: I am an only child and I have only one daughter. There is a popular belief that an only child is pampered a lot. I wasn’t. My parents never gave in to my unreasonable demands. However, I was always rewarded for my good conduct, achievements and also for my under performance whenever they felt that I need to be encouraged for putting in my best efforts. I follow the same mantra with my daughter.
Make them fearless: As a child, I was bullied by other children. This experience stayed with me until I went to college. I would get anxious and apprehensive whenever faced with any challenge. So I taught my daughter to be fearless. I always encourage her to face her fears and I am glad that this has made her a confident child.
Teach them to be independent: Since my daughter was 5 years old, I encouraged her to brush her teeth, take a bath without my assistance so she can learn importance of self hygiene, plus learn to do the routine chores independently. Slowly she developed the habit to do everything independently. Being independent also makes children responsible.
Give them freedom of choice: Let them choose. Learn to accept their choices. A parent needs to give them freedom to choose to make them into able decision makers in their personal as well as professional life.
Trust them: My dad always says this and I have imbibed it as my parenting mantra. You may believe that your child is small and doesn’t understand. However that is not true. They know a lot, they understand you and they understand the situation so trust them. Offer opinions but do not force your views. Trust their choices and they will turn into responsible adults. Remember they are a generation ahead of you. Always keep a watchful eye but do not impose yourself on them.
And last but the most important one…
Love them unconditionally: Just love them unconditionally. Provide them with a loving and secure environment. I am sure every parent loves their child the most. But I have also started preparing myself for the inevitable. My child will grow up and one day, ‘leave the nest’. If I love her unconditionally, I will have no expectations from her as my child. I will have to learn to let go and let her explore the world by herself.
No one is perfect and though I aimed to be a perfect mom but the parenting challenges that I face daily taught me that there is nothing like being perfect mom. My daughter loves me and looks up to me for motivation and inspiration which means the world to me.
Enjoyed reading my parenting mantra? Do share your parenting mantras too and do not forget to read what our next blogger mom Neha who blogs at www.sharingourexperiences.com has to say about her parenting mantra.