The definition of excuse(noun) means ‘A reason or explanation given to justify a mistake or offence’.
‘Making Excuses is a bad habit.’ I keep repeating this to my daughter as a gospel that needs to be imbibed in her life.
But today I am facing a dilemma. Will I always practice what I preach to my daughter? I do agree at some level that one makes excuses to avoid responsibility. As I approach midlife, my responsibilities will also rise. My family will need me more. My parents will age so I will have more responsibilities. I am a bit apprehensive about dealing with such situations in my life. I will also have work commitments and I would also want to give priority to my career.
I will have to find the right work-life balance. Being a freelancer and a work from home mom has its own challenges as well.
Though I want to make positive goals for midlife, its only natural that sometimes I feel the burden of these responsibilities.
I keep doubting myself whether I will make excuses when I fail to adhere those responsibilities. Will that make me a bad daughter or a mother?
There will be days when I do not want to do something for the family. Am I doing a wrong thing if I do make an excuse to get out of it? Or telling the truth that I need this day to myself be just expressing my desire and will not account for making an excuse? Does it mean that I am selfish?
What do you feel? Today I am looking for answers. Do share your views.
John Travolta’s quote does give me some respite but I still look for more answers.
‘Your life starts to take shape at 30. You don’t have to make excuses for who you are anymore.’