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The Importance Of New Moms Social Life

Being A New Mom Is Fighting Plenty of Worries

Motherhood can be daunting. New moms feel stressed out by over thinking on challenges of motherhood. But I also believe it depends on our perception, how we perceive our life to be after motherhood. When I look back on the early days of my own motherhood journey, I feel I could have done things differently. I was very paranoid after I gave birth to my daughter. Often, I would run back to the room after getting a drink of water, even if she was sleeping. I was unable to leave her alone for a second and was always worried about her well being.

Big Life Changes Lead Me To Step Out More

When my daughter was 4-years-old, we moved to a new city. It was a big change for us as a family. My daughter began attending preschool. I am a shy person initially so it was very difficult for me to strike up a conversation with other moms at her school. I had to step out of my comfort zone in order to kindle relationships and find support from other moms. While attending functions at the school, I found like-minded moms, and then we had so much to discuss that it became easy to adjust to a new city.

So today, I want to help other moms do the same. I will share a few tips on how to keep your social life active long after the baby comes.

Strong Friendships Ease the Transition Into Motherhood

The best way to enjoy motherhood and the change is to have an active social life. Friends enrich our lives and provide a listening ear, a helping hand at every stage. So, why not after motherhood? It is the time when you need your friends the most as motherhood is the most unique change in our lives. Strong friendships can provide us with a life jacket when we are drowning in the responsibilities that being a new mom brings.

There seems to be is a stigma surrounding parenthood that says your life changes and you can’t enjoy friendships the way you did before. It means there is no socializing, no nightlife. I bought into that stigma and suffered. In the initial months, I didn’t interact a lot with my friends until one day, I decided I needed to get back to my old life. It wasn’t that easy, but I had wonderful friends around who made it possible.

Now, most of my friends were parents also, so they understood my situation. However, many of you may have single friends or friends without kids. It may take more effort to connect with those friends.

New Friendships Make Parenthood Even Better

It is not easy to find like-minded moms and become friends. This often requires patience and acceptance of the fact that you could be rejected. For a shy person like me, making new friends requires effort and usually doesn’t happen on its own. It might be uncomfortable sometimes but it is absolutely necessary that we shun all our inhibitions while looking for people with whom to share our parenting stories and enjoy being with. You might not necessarily click with every mother you meet but you need to keep putting yourself out there.

When we moved to the new city, I started going out to playdates with the moms I met and their kids, so my daughter also made new friends and adjusted to the new surroundings. I also signed up for Yoga classes, and I made amazing friends there too. Yoga helped me have a healthy body and mind. More than that, it gave me a chance to interact with so many people.

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It’s Not Selfish To Make Time For Your Friendships

Many moms feel it’s selfish to choose to have leisure and fun time away from the kids. In the initial months, I too struggled to keep that guilt away. But, with time, I realized that I was a better mom after spending some fun time with my friends. Also, by fostering friendships, we are teaching our children to value personal relationships and develop social skills.

If you are a working mom, it becomes even more difficult to find that leisure time. You may feel bugged with the guilt of leaving your child and going to work. It is certainly not easy to make time for friends with the competing demands of a job, home and kids. But it is worth it to take some time off for yourself and indulge in some late nights out with friends on a weekend at least once a month. You might also build friendships with other moms from your workplace.

How To Make Time For Friendships With Your Kids In Tow

As my new mom friends and I got to know each other, we arranged meetings for nights out at each other’s homes so the kids could sleep even if it got late. We tried not to always speak about our children when we met, consciously making an effort to talk about other things we cared for as well. It helped us relax a lot; taking our minds off parenting and getting back to our old lives, the women we were before we became mothers. And, since I had moved to a new city and all these were new friends, we had so much to find out about each other.

Find Your Mom Tribe

The most surprising change that motherhood brought for me was when I started blogging. I started writing on various parenting platforms and made so many virtual friends. I had interesting conversations with my virtual friends and met a few mothers personally later on. That inspired me to start my own blog and here I am, sitting in India, writing for a US-based website. Here we are, 8 mommy bloggers who are part of this amazing Healthier Mom Life Series. What else can I say? It’s just a happy feeling to interact with so many parents from around the world.

The only thing I have left to say to all the new moms out there is this: don’t feel guilty to have a leisure time. The laundry can wait too. Build new friendships and rekindle the old ones. Have fun.

Happy Parenting!

Also, a good read for new moms-

Feeling Exhausted, Mommy? Three Ways In Which I Energize Myself

Author’s Note: This post was originally published on Bohemimama as my guest post for the series “Healthy Mom Blog Party”.

25 thoughts on “The Importance Of New Moms Social Life”

  1. SO true.I seem to have lost my real life friends. But have found a huge huge mom tribe of online moms – cloth diapering friends, baby wearing friends, blogger friends. It has made the journey of parenting easier and enriching.

  2. I agree to all the above…it’s quite difficult to lead a ‘woman’s ‘ lie while also mothering. It’s all about balancing. Nicely written 🙂

  3. Such a wonderful write up. Taking out time for ourselves is must . Meeting with my friends is what keeping me sane during this hurricane of toddler tantrum . @momtasticworld

  4. I completely second u here… U r so right.. We need to take out time for our girl gangs too… Well I found some amazing friends in my daughter’s friend’s moms.. And somehow they have become a really important part of my life now.

  5. Motherhood comes with a gamut of responsibilities…. we tend to get absorbed into our prime role as a mother… 4 years after marriage I realize that it is equally important to stay in touch with your friends… at least once a month.


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