I am sure we all know what Calm means. Calm means not showing or feeling nervousness, anger, or other strong emotions.
But can we always control our emotions? Or Should we not express our emotions?
I don’t have answers and I am looking out for them. That’s why C is for Calm for me as I embark on this journey to decode Midlife.
It doesn’t take time for me to get excited. I react immediately.
While in school, I was a nervous learner. I was scared to be an underperformer. I would get exam jitters. I dreaded giving math exam.
As I grew older, I would become nervous if I had to take important decisions. After I became a mom, or should I say – A stay at home mom, the frustrations of being at home made me lose my calm and unfortunately my daughter became my punching bag.
The people whom I love the most bear the brunt of my outburst of emotions.
So, I react and get angry on my daughter, my hubby and my friends (they know whom I am referring to) when I just lose my calm.
Then after a while, when I introspect I get upset about losing it. But by then the damage has been done. I have hurt someone unknowingly.
I know as I will approach 40’s my body and mind will go through many changes which might make me impatient. But my goal is to become a calmer person.
For this, I plan to read more and practice mindfulness.
You can read more about practising mindfulness on my blogger friend Vasantha’s blog My Sweet Nothings.
I aim to write more. Writing is therapeutic for me. Writing has helped me shun my anxieties and fearful nature.
As I express my feelings through my words, I get to release all the negative energies and can become a calmer person.
As Dalai Lama says and I will imbibe this in my life as I want to stay mentally and physically healthy.
“Calm mind brings inner strength and self-confidence, so that’s very important for good health.”
Also, Michael Caine’s words are quite profound.
“Be like a duck. Calm on the surface, but always paddling like the dickens underneath.”
Did you read my previous posts in the series #DecodingMidlife?